One of the things that we find makes people fear dating so much is the idea of it being two people sitting awkwardly across from one another over a 3 course meal like they’re in a scene out of a bad 80’s movie.
 
But dating doesn’t have to be like that. And in particular a first date. Our suggestion is to keep it short, sweet, light and doing something that has you feeling relaxed and enjoying yourself.
 
We put it to our Project Love tribe to see what their tips were for first dates and here is what some of them came up with…
 
“If I’ve only met them online or am being set up on a blind date then I keep it to an hour and just a quick drink, often just a relaxed coffee. That way if you get there and think ‘no way’ then you only have to sit through one drink and if you like them and want to stay longer then happy days!”
 
“I like to go and do something that I’d like to do anyway so that even if things don’t go any further than that first date at least I’ve had an enjoyable evening doing something I wanted to do anyway!”
 
“I like to go somewhere I haven't been before, to keep the energy fresh and I try not to sit opposite each other, otherwise it feels like an interview.”
 
“I'm a huge fan of taking a walk. It's easier to relax when your body is moving, there is no alcohol involved so you can be in touch with your gut instincts, and you don't have to watch each other eat. Also, while walking you are aligned side-by-side instead of in opposing camps. If the weather is bad, you can get a sense of how the other person handles adversity. If things are going great, you can stop for a bite after the walk, or if you're not convinced then you can just leave it at the walk.”
 
“My best date was TABLE TENNIS! We were teamed up vs other pairs. And before you knew it, high five-ing, laughing and making fun of each other.
Doing something is so much better! Otherwise it's just like a job interview!”
 
“I just like to go for a drink and sit and talk because on a first date I'm really just trying to get to know them a bit - no distractions. I feel like a good date is with someone where I want to just sit with them like that"

Take a look at some more date ideas below as inspiration and write a list of the kind of dates you’d love to go on over the next few months…

Picnic in the park, wine tasting evening, street food festival, coffee and cake, weekend brunch, row a boat on a lake, walk in the park, outdoor film night, immersive theatre, beers and a gig, pretend to be a tourist – use dating as an opportunity to check out things that you’ve never been to before (could involve an open top bus!), bowling and burgers, pub quiz night, theme park, aquarium, the theatre, stand up comedy night, day time music festival.

DATES I’D LOVE TO GO ON

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x Selina & Vicki